Wow how did you make a private server?
Please send the address! :D
The server software is an open source project called LandSandBoat (formerally known as Project Darkstar).
You can check my server out at
https://www.madetoraid.com/ffxi/ and install instructions are at
https://www.madetoraid.com/ffxi/install/ . My server is very low popultion, but the people who play are extremely helpful and welcoming and will do (almost) anything they can to help with missions, crafting, gear, etc.
I've created a message base on my BBS for it, although I doubt it gets used much if ever. I've also started to do some integration between the BBS and the game - for example during the logon process of the BBS you will see the last 10 people to log into FFXI.
Let me know if you have any questions and I'll try to help. We also have a discord server you can find linked from the website header navigation. If you need help installing or connecting, it might be a little faster to get help in there, and someone else might see it besides me :)
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Ganiman
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